Surviving

The Holidays

With My Narcissistic /

Borderline

Parent

Experience Healing And Support During The Holiday Season

It’s hard enough to be the child of a narcissistic parent on a regular day…but the holidays can bring an extra level of stress and anxiety. If you are a child of a narcissistic parent, chances are good that you grew up doing everything you could to be recognized, and to please them no matter what. No matter what you did or how hard you tried, you never seemed to feel like you were quite good enough. 

Now the holidays are right around the corner… and you are dreading it…

What is he/she going to say to me? Will my parent pick a fight with me? What if everything isn’t up to his or his or her standards?  Will they embarrass me? Will they make a scene? Maybe they will comment on how much I eat, what I look like.

You might be worried about the house being clean enough for the holidays. What if the food isn’t up to her or his standards? They keep moving the goal posts….and frankly, you’re exhausted from trying so hard. You just need support.

You are tired of taking the blame for things, being compared to others, tired of not being allowed to have feelings of your own.

You are tired of the manipulation and gaslighting

You are tired of walking on eggshells. 

You are tired of all the arguing. Sometimes after arguing, you might even feel… kind of hungover. 

You are tired of keeping your mouth shut to avoid conflict, of being the one who is always discounted and dismissed. 

You are tired of feeling so alone.

Why can’t anyone understand?

You Are Not Alone

There are millions of other people out there who have narcissistic or borderline personality disordered parents who experience the same things you do.  

You want to love your parent, of course, you do, but after so much toxicity and emotional damage, this may be difficult.  In our culture, being angry with your mother or father- even just not liking your mother or father is taboo.  But after experiencing the narcissistic or borderline behavior of your parent, it is really quite normal and… it is okay.

Didn’t you just want to wake up one day and poof, know everything would be okay, that things would just go back to normal, if you just gave it one more chance?

You wish you had parents who loved you. You wish you didn’t feel so sad and isolated. You wish that your self-esteem was higher. 

If one more person says…

“Oh, your ( mother or father) is so wonderful. You’re so lucky to have him or her”.

Why can’t they see what is going on? Ugh, if they only knew….

You may be thinking “Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I am making all of this up. Maybe I should be more patient, maybe I should just stop arguing”, 

No, it isn’t just you. You are not making this up. This is a real thing that so many others experience with their parent.

You want to feel seen, you want to be heard

You are meant to live a good life- to know what it means to have fun.

❤️   Wouldn’t it feel great to disengage without worry?

❤️  Wouldn’t it feel great to have boundaries and still enjoy the holiday season?

❤️  Wouldn’t it be great to wake up without the dread of what the holidays will bring

❤️  Wouldn’t it feel great to have your opinion valued?
❤️  To feel seen and heard?

❤️  Wouldn’t it feel great to feel loved and considered during the holidays?

This is the perfect opportunity to learn from and be supported by others who experience the same things you are, especially at the holidays.

It takes a lot of courage to look into a workshop for support and healing, especially if you are the daughter of a parent who has a narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. 

Joining a group with other women who know exactly what you are struggling with is the perfect opportunity to get support, gain greater insight into your experiences and learn how to survive the holidays. 

The holidays are right around the corner. What am I going to do?

In this group, we will begin the journey to learning and understanding the parental borderline/narcissistic dynamic and why the holidays can be so difficult for children or narcissistic /borderline parents.

Here are some of the results of joining this group…

❤️ You will learn how this dynamic affects you, and why the holiday season exacerbates the already difficult issues and situations.

❤️ You will learn how to disengage from them so you can go into the holiday season feeling confident and supported.

❤️ You will learn how to edit the information you share with them to avoid opening yourself up to ridicule and abuse.

❤️ You will learn how to disarm them.

❤️ You will learn how compliments can be your friends. 

❤️ You will learn how not to be afraid.

I wholeheartedly invite you to join a community of women who have been through the same thing you have, who also feel the stress of impending holiday drama.